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Thursday, April 30, 2015

YES, WE SHOULD HAVE CHILDREN



I agree that it is up to the couple to decide to have children or not. 

In this connection this is what RamaAnanth says ===== It is totally up to the two adults to decide whether they want or not. These days children have lots of responsibilities, they may not be in a position to think impulsively about having a child. Having a child and bringing it up is a full time, a full responsibility, it cannot be taken lightly.


This is what Renu writes against having children =====I think it should be couple's choice and I don't think having the children is necessary. Yes i agree they bring lot of joy in life but they bring more amount of misery and a whole life liability.
People want children because they themselves can love only their own, otherwise there are always good people around us, we don't need to have children to fill that void.

However, there are many wonderful reasons for having children.
  
Christine writes =====I think it's good to have one's own children whatever the outcome. I don't expect anything from them, and will try to make plans for my old age.


This is what Al Penwasser writes in support of having children =====I am so very happy that I have a son and daughter. It's more than just a narcissistic desire to perpetuate myself (a sort of immortality, I suppose). It's just that I wanted to give the world what I hope was a gift. The fact that I would feel the same if I adopted a child says that it IS more than narcissism. Maybe my children will make the world a better place?


Read what Serendipity writes in favor of having children ======I just have my child at the age of 33 and at 33 that I had only found the deeper and different joy in my life and only this time too had i thought to put a direction on my life. I have the best times of my life at 33. :-D

 She underlines the fact that children give joy to the couple and direction to their life.

 According to Laura it is good to have children in general.


This is what Sherry Ellis writes =======I think having children is part of the circle of life. That's not to say you can't have a fulfilling life without them. But for me, I am grateful for my children, and I love them dearly. I couldn't imagine not having them.

Sherry underlines the fact that it is a circle of life to have children and she is grateful for her children.



Read what Jade Wright has to say about having children. ======I don't believe in waiting for the right moment for a baby and waiting until you have enough money - because lets face it, that is NOT going to happen! No one EVER has enough money for a baby but when it happens, we make a plan. We adapt.
Likewise I don't believe we should fear death as a reason to not have children. One day everyone days.. and to me that is the circle of life.

Ratty ====== I think it's a good thing to have kids no matter how they turn out. As long as you raised them the best you could, you know that something of you will live on in them.

Please click on the names of the above wonderful bloggers to read their blogs and write comments. I am sure you will become good friends.
 

What do you think?
Is it good to have children although they may not take care of the parents?

Are we giving a gift to the world when we have children?

Will our children make the world a better place?
Will the couple be grateful to the children?

Will our children give us joy and direction to our lives?

Should we have enough money before having children?

Is it a circle of life to have children?
Do you think that something of the parents will live on in the children?

40 comments:

  1. I had written my views.Still I write this also. One should have children.If all people think no need for children we should not have been here for writing this blog comment.So we should have children with limited number to keep our species extant.

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  2. Kids are a source of happiness and this happiness can only be understood by the parents who have them. Nurturing your child to be a good human being gives so much satisfaction and watching her grow is an immense bliss.

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  3. My two children -- a son and a daughter -- gave me many of my gray hairs, but I can't imagine life without them. Besides, I can now get some 'revenge' by spoiling my grandchildren.

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  4. I was having a conversation with my oldest son. I felt like I had not done the best I could with my life and therefore was not successful. He asked me what I had wanted to be and I told him there were many things but the one thing I always wanted to be was a mother. He said that I was a success. I wanted to be a mother and I truly enjoyed my children. Now I have the bounty of being a grandmother and even a great-grandmother. I realize after that conversation that I am indeed a huge success.

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  5. depends on couple regarding India , India is over populated so its better if they decide not to have kids or go for just 1 Kid if want more kids then can adopt the kids.
    Just depends on couple

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  6. Some people are contented with themselves/happy with themselves and decide not to have children. Too much responsibility, some think. Then, it is better they do not opt for children. Some couple love to have children and are ready/happy to take the responsibility of bringing them up. They should definitely have children. They will try their best to bring them up in a good way. But if they think of having children just so that they want them to take care of them in their old age, it is selfish. They will never be happy and contented in their lives. This is very wrong considering the current situation. The youngsters have to be busy always and they don't have time to spare for their parents...we can see this everywhere Parents should be prepared to take care of themselves, save enough money. Different types of people have different types of opinions. In the end, the parents are the ones to decide.

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  7. I fully agree with sm, if one really wants kids it is better to go in for adoption, for we see so many children with a good home, without a loving family. However, it is indeed the couple's choice whether to go in for adoption or to have their own baby. I have relatives who despite being able to have children have chosen to adopt not one but 2 and they have adopted girl child. They have brought them up so well.
    But , I don't agree that circle of life is complete only if you have children.
    It is not correct to say that a person would understand what it is to have a baby only if they have had one, for I can understand the problems of the people who choose not to have, despite being the mother of two children.
    Times have changes and people need to be more open to different views about this matter.

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  8. "Be fruitful and increase in number, multiply on the earth and increase upon it". Of course parents are to love their kids and be responsible for them and bring them up in a godly manner, to be responsible adults, then they will be a gift to the world. If not enough money, I think they should wait. Why bring another human being to suffer with them and added to their current burden. Yes, we hope, we plan and we expect. But no one knows what tomorrow may bring...we can only just put in our very best and not be overcome with all these worries. Yes, I do think something of the parents will live on in the children. Just sharing my opinion.

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  9. Very interesting opinions. When all said and done if a couple truly want children they will do so, unless there are medical reasons that it cannot be.

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  10. My son took years off my life, lol...but I'd never be without him!
    Being a parent is always a mixed blessing, it brings sorrows as well as joys...and as long as we realise that before choosing to have children, then all will be OK.

    A truly thought-provoking post, Joseph.
    Thank you so much.:)

    Have a fabulous weekend.:))

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  11. We Shouldnt have children, so that they will look after us..they are not financial investment.
    And the children can make the world a better place or worst cant be said, as all the criminals are also somebody's children,but yes if we bring them in this world, we must do our best to inculcate good values first..for that there can be no excuse.
    Enough money is a very subjective term..everybody has a different parameter, but yes we must have enough to give them basic necessities..food, clothes and a roof over their head.
    Children give us lot of pleasure, their hugs are like nothing else in this world.But we can nevr be dispassionate about them, so we are in constant worry.

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  12. There are a lot of variables that figure into the decision to have children. One of the best questions to ask: Do both parents want a child. If the answer is no, I think it is smart to wait until the both do.
    There is nothing sadder than a child navigating life trying to figure out why a parent doesn't love them.

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  13. Hi, and thank you for visiting in my blog. Your comment was so uplifting, too.
    That child-thing. In this age I have started to feel sort of..empty space, because I dont have children. I cant get or should I say not given me.. I know that there´s women, who have had children in my age, and I´m hoping it..so, I believe now (not, when I was younger) that one part of me is sure, that greatest gift would be child..and also, knowing inside, that I´m ready. Before that feeling I couldn even think about child...not fair to child from my part... Hard subject for me, hope you got my point.

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  14. I feel it should be left completely to the couple to decide about it.
    But unfortunately (in India) we have parents waiting in post haste to become grandparents, "well wishers" and "friends" who keep poking that question at constant intervals "no news?"

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  15. If a person that wants to have kids does have them then they did something good. The kids don't necessarily have to be successful at anything. All anyone can really hope for is that they are happy.

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  16. I may change my mind in the future, but right now I'm at a point that I don't want kids. I want to focus on my career, and I want to enjoy my marriage, and I want to make my dreams come true. And I know that I couldn't do that if I had a child. And I don't feel any less fulfilled or lonely for not having one.

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    1. I totally agree with your view, and can understand your focus on your career and marriage. One should not let emotions take over, and become a mess. One should be able to create the right environment for the coming of a child
      In our times we somehow managed, and partly it was possible because, most of us had the choice to work or not to work. In these days it has become important that both work, not only for monetary reasons but also others..

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  17. Children can be a blessing, but if the time isn't right, or you don't want to put the work into raising them, it's best not to have them.

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  18. Great insights. Everyone's entitled to their own opinion as they say. Kids are gifts for me.

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  19. interesting thoughts, and cheers for including me! :-) x

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  20. Peggy and I never had children, but we have put more thought into deciding whether to get a new dog or cat than a lot of people appear to put into having a child. We also treat our dogs and cats better.

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  21. Will our children give us joy and direction to our lives?
    Yes Sir , so Yes ! It's really a blessing from God above . Children's are inspiration to keep moving , they give direction to their parents .
    Thanks for visiting on our island hopping , hoping you'll be have beautiful children soon. Keep on blogging :)

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  22. I'm glad that my parents had children and I'm grateful for my kids, but some people don't want to have children and that is fine also. Whether we have children or not, I think planning to be healthy and able to care for ourselves in old age is important.

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  23. Sometimes our children delight us, sometimes the opposite. They are God's children at the end of the day. Once they're grown, there's not much we can do but watch in amazement or horror! Judging by the current newspapers, many parents are watching in horror!

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  24. Thank you for completing the story for my painting through your thought provoking words!
    Well, off late I have been thinking that there are n number of children on this earth without parents, why can't be parents to them instead of bringing our own new ones?

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  25. The world lives on because of children. This is not to say that those without one doesn't have a reason for being. The situation really depends on each case. It's good to have one if you're responsible enough to rear these young minds into individuals that make this world a better place to live. It's not good to have one if you don't have the time or patience to mold them into responsible, kind and thoughtful people.

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  26. Such thought provoking questions and statements! I do not have any children for many reasons, but I do respect people who do. It is an enormous choice...

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  27. We had four children. One was killed at age 26, two decided not to have children and we are blessed with two grandchildren from the one who did. The two with no children are just as happy and successful in their personal fulfillment goals as the one with them. As parents, our goal is to stay self sufficient, leading active lives as long as possible and have planned for it. This brings us peace of mind. We do realize events can create the unexpected and because we enjoy good communication with our children, we expect to continue the friendship the
    child /parent relationship develops in maturity - and know we can all count on each other if necessary.

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  28. Well, of course now I have to ask if YOU have children! Your header picture is sunning!! The Chinese want boy babies so they can take care of their parents when they age. This is why their orphanages are full of girl babies. And of course, some couples cannot even have babies. And some parents are very bad parents. I have always thought that we have to take tests to drive, to be a nurse or dentist. But the most important job, being a parent, anyone can do it even if they are not fit for it. So it requires a lot of thought and prayer. Thanks for visiting me!

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    1. I have three boys, all grown up and standing on their own feet. Two are married.

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  29. Thank u sir for yor comment. hmmm. interesting blog.
    i don't think its a circle of life to have children. Its a personal choice 2 people make.
    Parenting is a beautiful feeling, because it gives u that feeling of belongingness. that something that has been a part of u comes out in the world, and u watch them grow, evolve, learn from the worls, and give it something.

    the problem is when we get materialistic and see children as some future investment. thats why there has been a skewed sex ratio, because a male child in a paternalistic society is considered more reward giving, thats y we have also parents forcing their choices on children in career options, marriage and so on

    yes children give parents joy, direction and yes something of parents does live in them. but they also have their own individuality. their own aspirations.

    yes the other side is that children go wayward, abandon their parents. unfortunately they forget that someday, they too may become them. shakespeare's seven ages of man....

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  30. I think that having children is a precious gift. I'm adopted and my birth mother knew she was unable to give me the care I deserved so she put me up for adoption. In turn, my parents adopted me and cared for me just like they cared for my brother. I cared for my mother for ten years and my brother is caring for her now. I have three children of my own and have learned from my mother both how to parent and not to parent. My mother passed on both good and bad parenting traits.

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  31. Hi, Joseph... thank you for visiting my place... I see many familiar names....

    What a great post for me to read at this time...

    Is it good to have children although they may not take care of the parents?

    I remember my Mom telling someone a story once... about how she and Dad had three kids to take care of... and then three more to take care of them... that was pretty much how it turned out. There is more to the story...

    Are we giving a gift to the world when we have children?

    Not necessarily. If we are going to bring children into this world, we need to be parents to them... for them. This isn't happening. I'm sure this has always been the case, but it seems more pronounced at this time.

    Will our children make the world a better place?

    They should... maybe they are...

    Will our children give us joy and direction to our lives?

    Should they? Maybe we need to be more like birds and other wildlife... get them to where they can exist, and move them on... I'm not that kind of parent however...

    Should we have enough money before having children?

    Yes... if we are bringing children forward, we need to be able to raise them.

    Is it a circle of life to have children?

    I think so...

    Do you think that something of the parents will live on in the children?

    I hope so... I see a great deal of my Mom and Dad in me every day...

    ~shoes~

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  32. I'm finally returning your visit. I want to thank you for stopping by my blog and I liked the quote you left in my comments.

    As for children, I don't know if mine will make the world a better place but they made my life better by being in it.

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  33. Yes I think no one understands the joy that children bring until they have them. I was surprised by the instant love I had for them. I do not know what they will do with the world.

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  34. You have posed good questions on the subject. The insights and perceptions on this are all interesting. There is no good nor bad. It is simply according to what a person believes in... what he or she thinks would work for him or her.

    Good job with this post... nudging readers to think and ponder on these important questions.

    Great day to you, Joseph.
    And too thank you for your lovely visit to my blog.

    Ellen

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  35. Hi, Joseph! You visited my blog recently, and I appreciated your kind and thoughtful comment. I'm sorry that I didn't get back to you sooner. The last few weeks have been chaotic for me. You've asked some thought-provoking questions about children. Unfortunately for me the choice was out of my control because I was born with a medical situation that made it impossible for me to have children. I had a life filled with school children on a daily basis, and I have incredible and wonderful nieces and nephews on both sides of my family. I do think that children are a gift to the world, but so many are damaged by the conditions they are born into. It is tragic. If you bring a child into the world, you should do so without expectations of what that child will do for you. Children deserve to be accepted for who they are and to be loved unconditionally. I do worry about the world that we adults are leaving for our children, so much so that I am almost relieved I was unable to have a child. Children are humankind's greatest hope for the future, and they are inheriting such difficult problems. Have a good one! from Louise (Fundy Blue)

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  36. This is a discussion that is going all over the world! Very actual and very relevant.

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